Self-Centering: The Best Ways to Move on More Easily From Your Divorce

The weeks and months following a divorce can be extremely difficult for many people. Taking some time to focus on yourself after a traumatic event like a divorce can be very therapeutic, but many people really don’t know what to do. The following self-care tips can really help you to work through the difficulties of a divorce, and prepare yourself for many happy years to come.

Get in Shape or Have a Makeover

During marriage, and especially during a divorce, most people indulge in some ‘stress eating’ or put off exercising to deal with other things. If this is the case for you, consider joining a gym or beginning an exercise routine to get back in shape. If you’re already happy with your health, take a day at the spa, shop for new clothes, or do something else that is all about you. Pampering yourself during this difficult time can be a great way to be reminded that there are still many things you can enjoy on your own.

Travel On Your Own

Consider taking a trip to somewhere you’ve always wanted to go, but your spouse wasn’t interested in. While it can be a little scary at first, traveling alone is actually one of the most enjoyable experiences you’ll ever have. If it isn’t for you, consider bringing a sibling or friends along with you for a fun vacation.

Join Some Post-Divorce Support Groups

There are a lot of different types of post-divorce support groups that you can join to get to know other people who are going through, or have gone through, the same things as you. These can be very helpful when trying to get through this difficult time, and in many cases, you’ll meet new friends who will be there for you for years to come.

Make Plans with Friends & Family

When you are married, it seems like you are just naturally kept busy with couples events, things with the children, and more. After a divorce, many people find that they need to take a much more active role in making plans. This is natural, and should be something you embrace. Call your friends and family, and make solid plans with them to keep yourself busy, and to strengthen your relationships.

Restart Activities You Gave Up During Marriage

Part of being married is compromising, which usually means both spouses will give up some of the activities that they enjoyed in favor of things that they can do together. While there is certainly nothing wrong with that, you are no longer in a position where it is necessary. Think back to the things you loved doing prior to being married and try taking them up again if possible. It can be great to rediscover activities you once loved.